Two things about this:
“are there Hindi getting married in faux churches, decorated with crosses everywhere?”
-As an Indian, I have to point out your glaring typographical faux-pas. Hindi is a language; a Hindu is an adherent to Hinduism. Hindus is the plural. Get it right, white people. Is it so hard?
-And this does happen in Japan (I guess 50 years of American dominance in that country will do certain things to their traditions, no matter how traditionalist a society they are portrayed as in American media)
http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/world/2008/07/…

Gareth: In fact, is it not the case that if 'Rachel' is a racist recruitment tool then so is any film in which liberals are happy?

I think that the minority you refer to in your original post (and I really do think it's fascinating – the Ethan and Sidney references bear serious thought, and that's just for starters) may well be pissed off by this movie, if they ever see it; but I imagine that anyone else affected by the issues it raises might just find a little bit of comfort in their struggle to make life work. I did, at least. It's sad that it made you angry. But from my perspective, in the world imagined by the film, we could agree to disagree and still be friends.

1: Why do you think RGM isn't hopeful?

2: What's wrong with creative people enjoying themselves?

3: You say that one of the most contrived moments in the film is when the camera focuses on Ethan's plate. But is this not just exactly what everyone in the kitchen would have done? i.e. glanced at it first time round, tried to pretend it wasn't there, and then found oneself unable not to look at it again? This is an observational film – we're guests at the wedding, mildly uncomfortable, watching, not sure if we should be there. The Ethan plate moment is one of the most lifelike in the film.

4: Ultimately I think that 'Rachel Getting Married' is a fine film, not a masterpiece. I freely grant – always have – that the wedding itself is over the top and 'you had to be there' – but so has every wedding that I've ever been to. That's why this film is realistic: some people on their best behaviour, and so they act over the top; others find that their emotions get the better of them, so they have sex with the best man, or make embarrasing speeches, or get jealous over who gets what title. And, for a moment or longer, a community of two families can form, and people can taste a little bit of what life at its best could be like. That's all that's happening here. Nothing more, nothing less.

I think that the minority you refer to in your original post (and believe me, the Ethan and Sidney references bear serious thought) may well be pissed off by this movie, if they ever see it; but I imagine that anyone else affected by the issues it raises might just find a little bit of comfort in their struggle to make life work. I did, at least. It's sad that it made you angry. But from my perspective, in the world imagined by the film, we could agree to disagree and still be friends.

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